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Wow! People Creeping Around My House, A Fun Surprise!

Saturday, September 7, 2019

Wow how have I not blogged about this yet??

So, when we moved to Seattle, we found our place online and signed a lease site unseen. From the map I saw on Trulia, it looked like it was in a safe area. HOWEVER, when you google the neighborhood on Area Vibes it has an F rating... AND on SpotCrime there are like at least 5 misc. reports on my block hahahaha. So... not the safest area. 

So, Jake had to go out of town one night for a work trip and I was sort of nervous, but when the day got closer I was actually feeling pretty good. I was planning on making a fun night of it and I was feeling safe because we hadn't actually had anything happen in our area for a while other than package thefts for neighbors and various reports, but like nothing in our immediate area. We live at the end of a little dead end street with only one neighbor (we love them) so we never have foot traffic or anything sketchy (so far!)

The day came and I dropped Jake off at the airport, came home, ate some chips and salsa, and then opened my garage to leave for work. As the garage opened, I heard "hello?". 

I froze. I thought it might be my neighbor's mom who I had seen walking around on the phone earlier in the day, but when I walked out of the garage I saw a girl with some ratty pamphlet claiming she was selling magazines to gain some "work points" for an employment program??? Like suchhhhh OBVIOUS b.s. So, I told her I had to go but asked if I could get a phone number or email, which she didn't give me (obviously).

It was obviously not legit because:
A.) The website in the pamphlet wasn't real.
B.) She didn't ring my doorbell.
C.) She probably only talked to me because I had caught her outside our garage and since we are at the end of a dead end street, she didn't really have anywhere else to go.

So, naturally I PANIC as I'm about to spend the night on my own. I'm thinking "Was she trying to steal packages??? Was she scouting it out to break in???" 

I call my mom. I call my grandma. I call Jake (who was getting on a plane). I text my uncle. I text my boss. I chat with my coworker. I run the full length of my anxiety, stopping just before crying because I had to go be a therapist. (The chant "you can't cry right now, you have to go be someone's therapist, you can't cry right now, you have to go be someone's therapist" got me thruuuuuu)

In New York there were certain "schemes" that were common and everyone knew about (people coming on the subway with a sob story and asking for change, kids selling candy bars, etc.). So,  I was wondering if it was the same for Seattle. I called the police department to ask them about it. I told the guy what happened and I asked if she really was selling magazines or if that was a common scam/front they heard about. 

He said, "It's hard to say. This time of year there are people selling magazines. But it's hard to say what it was for sure."

I said, "Just for fun, let's pretend she wasn't selling magazines. Let's pretend she was scouting out my house to break in. What do I need to do to be safe?" 

He said, "Just lock your doors and keep your eyes out." 

I said, "Ok, so if I lock my front door then I should be ok?" 

He then has *the nerve* to say, "Well, maybe. But they could also always just kick your door in." 

I said, "Really??? Wouldn't that make a ton of noise though?" 

He said, "Well, yeah. But, you know, people hear loud noises all the time." 

I said, "Ok, well I'm sleeping here alone tonight and I'm a highly anxious person. So, what should I do? Do I need to barricade my front door then?" 

He said, "No, you're probably fine. Most burglaries occur between 10:00am and 2:00pm when people are at work." 

I said, "Oh, so me being home maybe deterred her from breaking in?" And then I can't remember what else he said but I did feel a little bit better knowing burglars don't break in at night, which actually makes a lot of sense since they probably don't want to encounter people. 

A few minutes later, my 5:30pm didn't show and I started wondering if it was a whole conspiracy where someone found out where I lived, booked a session to make sure I was gone, and was now robbing me. LOL. I finished work at 7:30pm but felt like it was too late to get fancy pizza like I was planing, so I just got the impossible burger and went home. (WHICH IS SO GOOD.)

My neighbors were outside, so I chatted with them about the girl (she went to their house too as I was pulling out) and it was actually really helpful! My neighbor is literally in the military and he was like, "We always have our windows open. If you need anything, just yell! I'm low key always hoping something will happen." Lollllll. They are actually moving in a few weeks and I am so bummed. It was so nice and comforting! 

I barricaded the door, and ate dinner while watching Bachelor in Paradise. Then, I went to bed (with the lights on and doors barricaded) and didn't feel too anxious actually! So, I am very proud of myself!

Anyway, I read somewhere that if you getting the urge to run, to remind yourself that you are safe. And I thought that was such a good point! I am always moving all over the place and convinced the somewhere else will be "better". But really, any city type area is going to have crime. And just because there is crime, doesn't mean I am not safe. The worst case scenario is probably that someone is going to steal my package at some point or yell at me. 

But, we really are so close to downtown Seattle which is super fun! And we have a good space for the money (I think), so I am making us stay here and appreciate it until lifestyle circumstances take us somewhere else (not pregnant) or the housing market crashes and we can finally buy something lol

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