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How To Move To New York City (And Not Cry Yourself To Sleep)

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Step #1: RESEARCH.

Moving to the city is unlike moving to anywhere else. Here are the basic things you'll want to research.

  • Boroughs (Manhattan, Brooklyn, etc.). 
    • Find which you'd like to live in. Each has different pros and cons. I'm biased to Manhattan, but honestly I think what trumps everything is being close to your work! It took my husband an hour to get to work in Brooklyn everyday. By the end of it, we wished we would have lived in Brooklyn so we could have more fun-time for life!
  • Neighborhoods. Upper East Side, Williamsburg, etc. 
    • Find which you'd like to live in. Make sure to check crime rates and how close this will be to your work/school if that's why you're moving there. Also I know it's easy to want that specific New York life, but just remember that if you're paying $3,000 a month for a studio in Greenwich Village, then you won't have any money to get out and actually do New York things!
  • Broker fees. 
    • This is basically a fee you pay the person selling the apartment. This can be anywhere from 10%-15% of the yearly cost. You can find no fee apartments, it's just a little trickier because instead of paying a broker to do the work, you're doing the work. There are lots of online search websites for no fee apartments.
  • Guarantor. 
    • Unless you make 40x the montly rent per year of the apartment you're trying to get, you'll need to have someone/two people who make 80x in a year what the monthly rent is. Ex: $2,000 a month in rent means you need to make $80,000 a year.
  • Where the subway stops are.
    • You'll be walking there in the burning hot and humid summers, and the ice cold winters, so make sure you're ok with how far it is!
  • Rent stabilized apartments. 
    • Basically they can't raise your rent more than x amount per year, which keeps it affordable! If you're not in a rent stabilized building, they can raise it as much as $100 per month every year! Rent stabilized apartments are like rare unicorns, but they do exist! You probably won't have much luck finding a rent stabilized, no fee apartment that is exactly what you want though, sorry :(

Step #2: When to start looking at apartments
In the city you basically can't find an apartment months and months before you move. Real estate goes sooo fast people won't even show you the apartment unless you can move in next week. It's annoying, but it's how it works and you have to deal haha. So if you're months from your move, still look if you want, just realize they might all be gone by the time you get out there.

Step #3: Apartment hunting websites.

  • Streeteasy: Great! You can search for key words like "rent stabilized" or check the box to search for no-fee apartments. This was my favorite.
  • LDS housing. Great if you're single looking for a room. You do have to be LDS to be in the Google Group. Email me if you want the link! emmycoletti@gmail.com
  • Padmapper.
  • Trulia.

Step #4: Getting your stuff out there.

  • POD. You can do the whole POD rental thing. Just make sure you know the rules about your street. How long you can be parked, what days are no parking, etc. Also if you are on the 5th floor of a walkup, you may want to get help moving everything up. We didn't do this option so I don't know everything else there is about it haha.
  • Ship boxes. It's surprisingly not that expensive to ship a few boxes of your stuff.
  • Sell and rebuy. If you have cheap stuff already, it's sometimes cheaper to sell it and buy it again in New York. This is what we did and it cost us maybe $3,500 to buy everything we needed for our apartment. We were able to get $1,000 out of things we sold. so, we only spent $2,500 out of pocket. Then again, we're big IKEA fans so it worked for us but might not for you.

Step #6: Finances.
SAVE ALL YOUR MONEY. New York is so expensive and surprise! So is moving there. We saved $15,000 for our move and needed every penny of it. (Maybe you're lucky and having your work helping you out! If so, claps for you!)

Step #7. 
Have a plan B! Most likely something will go wrong. Probably with signing your lease because New York apartment leases are THE WORST, but who knows. So just be prepared for all possible situations.

NYC Rules/Tips.

  • Get a new lock for your door. The landlord will have a key, but get a lock that just you have a key to for peace of mind.
  • If you have people living below you make sure you have lots of rugs to muffle your footsteps. There's a rule that 40% or something of your floor has to be covered in rugs.
  • Also read up on how to not act like a tourist. There are certain things in New York that are different. I'm coming from Utah, so I'm not sure how many of these are not New York specific, but a few examples are: Don't smile or look people in the eye. Sidewalks are basically like freeways, the fast you walk go more toward the left. Ignore catcallers/people trying to sell to you. Be careful about what areas you are in by yourself at night. Know what you want to order before you get to the cashier, then order fast. No matter how rude people are or seem, just remember they are just busy and to not take it personally.
  • The only car that is allowed to pick you up is a taxi. If an Uber approaches you an asks you if you need a ride, that is NOT Uber and don't take it. 
  • Obviously don't leave your stuff unattended. 
  • Don't hog the subway poles. Don't stare at people while on the subway. Don't give beggars on the subway any attention. If you're wearing a backpack, be mindful of the space it takes up and put it between your legs. Don't crowd the door when people are trying to get off the train, let them off! 
  • Walk fast like you have a destination, even if you don't.
  • If you're going to take a photo of a building or Time's Square, be aware of the people around you and don't just stop in the middle of everything.
  • Time's Square is the worst place on earth. Just FYI.
  • If you must look at a map, don't let everyone know that you are lost. It makes you a target for criminals. 


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