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Saturday, September 7, 2013

Some ghostly pictures from the day the sun kept changing and messing up my shutter speed.

Also forgot my remote, so.

So, I have been watching this documentary called Asexual. It's actually been super interesting. Reader discretion is advised if you are sensitive to sexual things...

So, apparently they are not interested in having sex. Like, at all. They are not interested in either men or women. However, interestingly enough, they percent of asexual people who "self please" is the same as heterosexual people who "self please". This would suggest that some of them do have a sex drive, they are just not interested in having sex with a person.

One guy on the show is being interviewed by people who think being asexual is a cop out. They ask him how it's possible to have a sex drive, but to not want to have sex with men or women. He explained it as, "You like to have sex with men but not women. That person likes to have sex with women but not men. I like to have sex with neither." Interesting, huh?

Later on in the film they introduce an interesting character who has the unique ability to hammer a nail into her nose. (I would suggest watching that alone! It's about 30-40 minutes in.) She is in a relationship with someone who also is not interested in sex. They address the issue of romance in asexuals. Apparently there are different types of romantics in the asexual community. There are people who identify as romantic and aromantic. There's heter-romantics, homo-romantic, bi-romantic, and pan-romantic. Interesting, huh?
This girl says that the difference between an asexual romantic relationship and a normal romantic relationship is obviously that they don't have sex. Also, it differs from other asexual relationships, because they cuddle and lay together in a way that she would not feel comfortable doing with her friends.

I definitely think it would be interested to do a study, maybe even a longitudinal, on sexual trauma in asexual people. There just seems to be so much controversy and confusion over if asexuality is real or not. It would be nice to get some sort of conclusion.

But, all in all, it was a really interesting documentary. I would recommend it if you are interested in human behaviors.

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P.S. What do you guys think? I'm not trying to argue, so if you choose to comment keep it nice! But, firstly, do you think being gay is a choice? Do you think asexuality is a real thing that people are born with? Or do you think it's the result of some sort of childhood trauma or brain dysfunction?


  1. It does sound like an interesting documentary. I don't know enough facts to formulate a clear opinion yet, so I'll stay away from that discussion for now.

    You look great even if you did forget your remote though!

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